Forums >General Running>Not Racing ...
Ah, Yes, I have tried this countless times. I've even done it during a run, because I know he'll be alert, but it is in one ear, and out the other as soon as he returns home to his wife, and step children. I appreciate this suggestion though, in any normal situation it would really help..
I'm so sorry to hear this. This definately limits where things can go then. I hope that you can embrace any positive aspects of your relationship with your father and not allow the negatives to bring you down. Regarding your main question, even though I'm still building my base and really not race material yet, I'm content with it. I just love getting out there. Today, for example, I was going through an area with a lot of pine trees, rolling hills, the sun was shining, you could smell the trees, the dirt...it was just a slice of heaven. Races interest me and it will be exciting to finally do one again, but I love running for running. If I can get out there, put myself on autopilot, then life is good and that's really all I need.
Bugs
I hope when my kids are 21 they understand that I made a lot of sacrifices for them as they were growing up and let me enjoy my running sport with admiration and respect for dedication to my own personal goals. Stop focusing so much on your differences and enjoy the occassional run with your Dad. I promise you no matter what the relationship you will miss him when he is gone. BTW, lots of people run 6-7 days a week, run marathons, and are great people/parents, it's not a disease to be afraid of.
I like just getting out there and running more than I do racing. It's more about the health benefits (mental and physical) , being outdoors, having some time alone, and getting away from all the stresses of everyday life. I do enjoy pushing and testing myself, but I don't want that to become the only reason I run. My dad was sort of the same way growing up, except his thing was hunting and fishing. He'd bring us when he could, but not always, and it was less and less frequent as we got older. On top of that he worked off-shore on oil rigs and would be gone for weeks at a time. I use to sort of resent him for it, but now I understand how hard he worked to provide for us, and that he needed time for his hobbies too (otherwise he might have gone crazy with 5 kids!).
One day at a time
this is easy for me to say...not so easy to do. There is a gap. Find a way to bridge it. Do whatever you can to close the gap and never give up. Act as if the relationship you want is already there and then make it so. "Change the way you look at things and the way you look at things will change."