>Off the Beaten Path>ADHD -- I'd love any/all input
Needs more cowbell!
• 6 duathlons (1 Olympic distance)
• 130#s (and stay there, gotdammit!)
Now that was a bath...
Interesting too that he is similar to your brother.
My problem was hyper-focus and total lack of focus. The meds even out those two extremes, which gives me the ability to adjust my habits to better match what my strengths and weaknesses are. Ever since, I'm happier, my wife is happier, and things have gotten MUCH better.
Also, and this shouldn't be too much of an issue, but exercise will be key for your child. It's a physical and mental release. Get him interested in activities, but don't force him into anything.
There's a really good book that is geared towards adults, but may help with your kid (and you)....I can't remember the title, but I'll look at home.
I agree with Claire that it seems like you're doing everything that you can to get the best possible solution. Now for a different perspective..I went to a boarding school for highschool that's filled with "troubled" kids..most of them were on ritalin...i got to know them, most of them don't want to be on ritalin because although they settle the two extremes, they pretty much make them almost passion-less, which i thought was worst for them because they might miss out on something other than school that might spark the discovery of their true talents. Now that i thought about it, they used to fake taking their pills and would give them to me (i was bad then too ). Now I've actually gotten in touch with most of these kids and they are all doing great, they may not be rocket scientists but they're happy being filmmakers, novelists, philosphers,etc.
Beyond all that, I do agree that labels are easily thrown about. What concerns me is when people who have no specialized knowledge or training make recommendations (teachers, priests, guidance counselors, etc.). They have no business making those types of calls. If the teacher is concerned, then mention specific instances, but do not speculate on cause.
Also, there are several different variations on ADD / ADHD. I'm actually pretty much a slug. I would sit on the couch, flipping channels, because I couldn't decide what I should be doing, so I end up doing nothing. Meanwhile, it's all building up inside....This sort of nervous energy, so to speak, that would eventually come to some sort of head, and I'd be bouncing off the d@mned walls. REALLY BAD when I worked from home.........