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feeling sorry for myself (Read 975 times)

nemo1


    I have been training for the Lakefront marathon in Wisconsin, Milwaukee. I have already sent in the money and registered and everything. About two weeks ago, I got a little off in my training schedule because I am a physics major and I have been researching out of town, and that meant four hours of sleep for four nights and real sleep the other three, for two weeks. But before I left to research, I went on my first ten mile run. And, I figured I had plenty of time to get back into the groove of things. Well, I was wrong. It looks like I won't be running the marathon in October, but more like next year sometime. I was in a car accident on Saturday. I was in a small Dodge Neon and I was hit by a full size pickup truck; it was a side impact. My airbags did not go off, although that is to be expected since I was hit in the side, and neither did his. I do not know who is at fault yet. It is possible that is will be found to be both of our fault because it was a two way stop sign and even though I remember stopping and then going because I did not see him, it was still his right of way. I do not know if I saw him and then thought I could go because he was so far away, but instead he was going a lot faster than I thought and hit me. Or, I may not have seen him at all because of an obstructed view. I do not know, my memory is hazy at best. At any rate, I am now stuck with a cracked pelvis in three places, one on each side of my body, and one on my tailbone. Then, I have two broken ribs: my first and my eighth. The first one being broken says I was hit pretty hard. Anyway, this means I can't start training again for two months while my body heals. Does anyone have any suggestions for keeping my spirits up? I don't think I can get a refund from the marathon in Wisconsin, but I am only out about fifty dollars. Maybe someone has some ideas on some small exercises or something? Thanks, Sara
      Yikes! Sad I'm sorry to hear about your accident! Sounds like y'all crunched pretty hard! Healing from major injuries like that is way beyond anything I'm familiar with, so I'll only say that physical therapists are your friend. Yes, they get paid to hurt you, but it's a good pain... Undecided Are you going to be completely bed-bound? This might be a good time to exercise your brain. I hear visualization techniques can help a lot with training when you can't actually physically do it. You may also want to spend some of your now extra time researching about running - techniques, methods, etc. That'll help keep your mind focused towards running and then you can come here and share what you learned with the rest of us! Why don't you keep involved here on runningAHEAD? Post something - ANYTHING - every time you go on-line and we'll keep you company along your return to health. Just because you're not able to run right now doesn't mean you're not a runner. You can still belong here if you choose to. Janell

      Roads were made for journeys...

        Janell is reading my mind...scary!! Seriously though, spend time doing alot of reading about running. Read books by several different runners and see if you can gain some information that will help with your techniques, training schedules, etc. And don't leave us...join us even more! Take advantage of our quick wit & high intellect!! Wink We'll keep you amused & positive & focused on running. Oh yeah, and I highly recommend ice cream & chocolate milk...it heals all wounds!! (unless you are lactose intollerant). Eryn
        So do not get tired and stop trying. - Hebrews 12:3
          Mmmm. Chocolate milk good. Smile You also might want to consider volunteering at the marathon you'll be missing, if you think you're up for it. I remember hearing one of the more experienced runners suggest that to someone else who got sidelined, and it sounded like a good idea. It'll be hard knowing you're not out there, but at least you'll get to be part of the excitement. Think about it, anyway.

          Roads were made for journeys...

          Mile Collector


          Abs of Flabs

            Sara, I'm sorry to hear about the accident. I can't imagine what it was like because I've only gotten into a few fender benders. You are definitely a physics person for being so logical. What kind of research were you doing? Got any opinions on string theory? Sorry, I side track a lot. The important thing is that you survived the serious accident with only a few broken bones. Things could be a lot worse. If you're bed bound for a few days, you should definitely try to get your money back. Tell them what happened and see if they can bend the rules a little. As to how to keep your spirits up, as Janell said, you can always come here and play with the cats and dogs that roam this place Big grin
              you can always come here and play with the cats and dogs that roam this place Big grin
              Said the man dressed in the giant rabbit costume... Tongue Don't let us scare you off, Sara. We may be a little strange, but we's good folks. Promise!

              Roads were made for journeys...


              Needs more cowbell!

                Awww...I'm so sorry--but I'm very thankful that you're OK. We drive small cars, too (our "big" car is a Mazda 3 hatchback and we also have an older Ford Escort sedan and an ancient Honda Civic hatch), so surviving an accident with a much larger vehicle is always a bit miraculous to me. RIP little Neon. I agre with what everyone else has said. Stick around and learn as much as you can and let us support you through your recovery. You're pretty young, so there will be next year to compete--by then you may have a few more of us training for our first marathons to keep you company. For now just concentrate on getting better and stronger. Smile k

                I shoot pretty things! ~

                '14 Goals:

                • 6 duathlons (1 Olympic distance)

                • 130#s (and stay there, gotdammit!)

                nemo1


                  Thanks everyone, your encouragement is greatly appreciated and needed. As for chocolate milk and ice cream, I will see what I can do... Big grin Also, I'm not bed bound anymore, the doctors want me to pretty much do as much as I can even though it hurts. A lot. I am not in any kind of cast because they stopped binding ribs recently. The doctors discovered that it is better not to have them so your lungs can expand and not be limited by where your ribs are. It helps with pneumonia. And, unless your pelvis is broken all the way through in places, they don't do anything. I only fractured my pelvis and one side feels like it is very deep, it seems like it might be too because the doctors are worried about movement. Anyway, I am glad I didn't break it because then I would be in traction. Dead So, it is a mixed blessing. At least I don't look like a plaster of paris "masterpiece", but then I don't have any kind of support either. As far as the research goes, I will go back to work on that tomorrow. I am working with a geophysicist with high pressure studies of iron and phosphorus. We are getting the equation of state together for a certain compound, which would allow us to determine whether or not phosphorus is an element in the Earth's core. We know iron is, that is why we can use the compound. We can't examine phosphorus directly because it burns at normal pressures in oxygen. This is my senior thesis, and I am enjoying the work. I might continue in my prof's footsteps and go to graduate school for geophysics. But, there is also nano and biophysics. We will see what happens. To answer your string theory question... I do not like theory, I like the more hands on experimental side of things. However, the school I am at, albeit small, is lucky enough to have two accomplished string theorists. That is more than even the big schools and the really prestigous schools have. I think string theory is an interesting idea and it has a lot of merit. It certainly explains a lot of things, but they still need to work on it in order to figure a few things out. I won't go into it because the math involved is seriously like reading Greek (there are Greek words and letters in there among other things) and I took a class last semester dealing with the math needed. I did okay in the class, but it really made me realize just why I like the experimental stuff. Anyway, let me appologize now for any tangents, loops in thought, or anything else that will occur in the next few months as I write to you guys. I'm not saying I wouldn't do this normally, but now I have a real excuse... drugs, they gave me Percacet (don't know if I am spelling it right). It isn't as cool of a drug as the one they gave me in my IV at the hospital, but this is pretty neat for a drug in pill form. It does play some tricks on my short term memory, and on making me sleep a lot. It also seems to make it difficult to concentrate for an hour. At any rate, I am talking you guys' ears off, so I will sign off for now. Thank you for the support. I will write again later. Sara


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                    BTW, Sara, I think Physics geeks are the best! My hubby has his BS in Engineering Physics and works as a mechanical engineer. Science is king in our house (and our son is definitely taking after his dad and my brother more than me--kid loves Math and Science, but could give a toot about reading or language). Smile k

                    I shoot pretty things! ~

                    '14 Goals:

                    • 6 duathlons (1 Olympic distance)

                    • 130#s (and stay there, gotdammit!)

                      Got any opinions on string theory?
                      I remember I used to play with string in kindergarten. Theory was that it helped us develop creativity. Or, did you mean something else?
                      My Masters (>50) Race PR's: 5K - 20:17 10K - 42:36 HM - 1:31:22 Marathon - 3:20:48
                      vicentefrijole


                        I might continue in my prof's footsteps and go to graduate school for geophysics. But, there is also nano and biophysics. We will see what happens.
                        Hey Sara Sorry to hear about your accident! You must have some pretty colorful bruises at this point! Glad to hear you don't have to stay in bed, though. I hope your recovery is speedy. I'm a (male) grad student in biology and (how's this for a tangent) have been reading a lot lately about sexism in academia, particularly in the sciences (just think about the recent comments by the now ex-president of Harvard). I think the biology fields are getting slightly better but I hear things are still pretty old-fashioned in physics, chemistry, etc. I'm sure it all depends on where you are and who you study with... have you found this to be the case? Anyways, I encourage you to pursue that higher degree, if that's what draws you, as I think we could use a lot more women in science to shake up some of these old guys and spread some new ideas around. Big grin As for your Percocet, perhaps it will better enable you to keep up with our crazy groups rambling stories. When you're feeling particularly brave, take a browse through the "off the beaten path" forum.. hehhe. Wink
                        nemo1


                          Oh, I enjoy science and math, but reading and language are right up there too. I do have to admit that I have a soft spot for science fiction. Although, not all of us science "geeks" do. I knew a guy who was in school with me last year and he hated science fiction... said it wasn't real enough and there were too many inherrent problems. However, Star Trek did bring us the MP3 player. So, the creative side helps to guide the science/math side to where society wants us to explore next. I also LOVE reading, one good thing about this accident is that I will have plenty of time to read. But that only starts to happen as soon as I am off of the pain medication. I can't seem to keep my eyes open for very long. On a different note: I have started "training" again. You can see my log for my new times and distances. I will probably mention them in here as well. I decided feeling sorry for myself was good enough, I had to at least start working toward where I was in time and distance. Let's just say I won't think 12 minutes/mile is slow again Smile At least, not for a while. Today, I only managed to go .2 miles. And, it took me 20 minutes to do it. With my walker. I will get better though. Sara
                          nemo1


                            Hey Sara Sorry to hear about your accident! You must have some pretty colorful bruises at this point! Glad to hear you don't have to stay in bed, though. I hope your recovery is speedy. I think the biology fields are getting slightly better but I hear things are still pretty old-fashioned in physics, chemistry, etc. I'm sure it all depends on where you are and who you study with... have you found this to be the case?
                            Uhm, as far as bruises and scrapes go, I got very lucky. I only have one giant one, on my left hip, that is about the size of a man's out stretched hand, but no spaces in between the fingers. It is black, right now. I also have a green right breast, so it is healing at least. That one seems to be from the seat belt. And, I have some tiny dot bruises on my right hip, they are healnig very quickly and should be gone in a day or too. The only scrape I have is on my left elbow. Now, I wish my car had escaped so easily. She got hit in the left side and my mom said that it looked like there was only a foot of space where I was lodged in, there wasn't any other room for me. And, I'm not fat, but I think almost anyone needs a little more room than than that. The paramedics had to take of the left door in order to get to me. The rear windshield was blown out. It sounds very painful. I haven't seen it yet, but that is how it was described to me. Once I see more, I will let you know. Now, about working in the physics field with a bunch of guys.... Luckily for me, I joined a very small school. The school only has about 15 physics majors total. Freshman through Senior. And, there are more people who start as a freshman than actually finish. I am at Indiana University of South Bend. A satellite school of IU Bloomington. The head of our department is a nuclear physicisict from Notre Dame, then there is an astrophysicist, a geophysicist, two string theroists, and a couple of general physicists. So, we have excellent professors to help us out. We also have one female physicist on the faculty, she is the advisor and helps set the course for where you are going in the classes you take. I feel very fortunate being at IUSB because I came directly after the head faculty member (male) was fired for being sexist and I assume there was more involved. So, everyone is careful as it is. Also, everyone seems genuinely glad to have me there. I am certainly not the most brilliant scientist, but I do try, and they all enjoy teaching me. I have been to Purdue as a student for a semester as well. The attitude is certainly different there. I am not sure if it takes a while for them to warm up to you, but everyone seemed distant. As though they were working on their own thing and didn't care at all what anyone else wanted. So, I came back. Actually I came back for other reasons, but I did notice the difference. Alright, medicine is kicking in, I have to go. Sara


                            Needs more cowbell!

                              The current Newsweek actually has a little article about a transgendered guy (I think he's about 50 and was still a woman as recently as the late 80s) who was born a woman and now is a very respected scientist. He is doing a lot to help young women find acceptance in the Sciences, as he once struggled to not be treated as a lesser in the field, himself. Interesting story. k

                              I shoot pretty things! ~

                              '14 Goals:

                              • 6 duathlons (1 Olympic distance)

                              • 130#s (and stay there, gotdammit!)

                                Hi, Sara. 0.2 miles is a good start. You'll be creaping around the block before you know it! We're having a "Virtual 5K/5M" race Aug 5-6. I think we can create a 0.5 K division (or whatever you'll be up for - just let me know) just for you if you're interested in joining us! And as race director I'll limit entry to those with documented medical issues... Big grin

                                Roads were made for journeys...

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