Marathon training and expecting child (Read 991 times)

In the end talk to your doctor about it.....don't just listen to some guy off the internet.

Good advice, all around

Good advice, all around

(By which I meant any yahoo, including me)

I am the wife and we have 3 children- 10,7 and 5. Of course this is a non issue for us. However, my husband is an avid golfer and when they were much younger I knew how important his golfing was to him. I also knew that happy husband/wife make for a happier home life (within REASON- I'm no pushover-lol). Children are not the end all be all in a marriage. Sure you miss your normal sleeping patterns that you had prior to them and sure life is different, but it certainly is not the death of who you are as a person. I don't know why so many people struggle with stuff like this. You need to communicate with your spouse/significant other and let them know your feelings and allow them to do the same. There are always going to be pros and cons and you need to carefully weigh them both. Once you make a decision based on your discussions, I think it then becomes very important to stick to the decision you both made as a couple and NEVER use it against the person i.e.."Remember that time when so and so was born and I was so exhausted and you still trained for the marathon, played that round of golf" etc...once a decision is made that is the final word. You have to find lifes balances and learn to live within them. When you chose to marry that someone you knew beforehand what their passions/hobbies were in their lives, why try and change that once you sign the paperwork? I also don't like to see all this trying to get an infant to sleep longer crap out there. Infants that young were not made to be put on a schedule. I agree to everything Trent said. Those first few months are tough sure, but it won't be like that forever and believe or not it will all become a distant memory. I breastfed all my children with my youngest nursing until he was 2 (yes, I had nightmares of him still nursing in elementary school ) so sleeping through the night never reallly happened for us until 6 months or so, but then again, not really an issue as we did the co-sleep thing as well (in that time period). The bottom line is all infants are different, but regardless of whether you choose to nurse or formula feed, let them keep their own schedule in those very early weeks..quit focusing so much on trying to schedule them or make them sleep longer strethces. I can understand how your wife may feel, but it worries me a tad that she is not just a little more supportive in something that you like to do. It sounds as if you both need to have a serious sit down discussion. Dont wait until the last minute to do it, otherwise it becomes easier to add to much pressure to the situation. Do it now while she still feels somewhat human and not down the road when she feels like a bloated hormonal mess

FYI - http://www.websitetoolbox.com/tool/post/timrock/vpost?id=2592327&trail=15#1

Let's just agree to disagree. That is a whole nuther' thread and board topic (which probably has no business in a General Running Forum anyhow ) in and of itself. I digressed in my answer to the OP anyhow