which saddle do you use? I used the one that came with my bike for a year, then, due to pain,  decided to get a new one and got a bontrager based upon the guy at the store's (Helen's, for those local to Los Angeles) recommendation. I've had it for a year, but I don't use it much because it's worse than the original. I've realized this is really effecting my interest in triathlons, because whenever I start getting into it, I become very....uncomfortable. At one point, I went to a man-doctor because of the lingering discomfort.

I've heard that this one is good:

http://triathlonlab.com/product/profile-design-tri-stryke-ti-saddle.html

but would love other recommendations.

Most saddles have built in relief where it's needed.

This is just a personal opinion but I strongly believe that a proper bike position (fit) is important. Having the seat at the right angle and sitting on it in the right spot.

It does seem that the complaint is usually TT bike related where your position rocks you forward possibly putting more pressure on that one spot that hapens to contain some pretty important nerves and blood flow.

I've personnally have never dealt with the issue. I've had several years with 5000 plus miles on the bike. My last two years haven't been that great.

Find your sit bones and make sure thats where the seat contact is.

This guys a charachter but he knows his bikes. Sit Bones and Saddles