Wow...Heath Ledger is dead (Read 895 times)

In real life, when people are discussing something they're sad about, nobody ever shows up to explain why they shouldn't be sad.

And you know what IS great about feeling sadness for a stranger? Realizing how lucky we are. I can feel sad for celebrities and strangers who encounter sources of grief, but it doesn't make me depressed (which is a point I think EnduranceMan misses re: feeling sad when strangers have lost loved-ones) because it helps to put my own life in contrast--I feel bad for Heath Ledger's little girl and it gives me pause to think about how fortunate I was to never lose a parent and how fortunate my son is to have to living, loving parents, too.

on a less serious note: Heath was on my 'list' and now I'll have to recalculate an updated five. Jilly

If you want the 'Accountants of 08' calendar you'll have to talk with Sully's wife. And, kooky, very sorry to hear about your benching.

. There is no time. None. Be happy that Heath reminded you of that. Be happy!!!

Endurance fella - I get from your posts that you are a very clever and analytical person but I really think that you are over analyzing a pretty basic response from your group of dotcomrades. We are not sobbing and threatening suicide. We are not dwelling on our 'I'm sad' moments and comparing the grief to the loss of a loved one. If we were, everything that you have posted would have been entirely appropriate. As it is I can only think that you have recently lost someone or have experienced the loss of someone very close and that you are finding it hard to read what we are actually saying. Truth is - I don't like you telling me to be happy any more than I liked you telling me not to be sad. I own my own emotions and crazy as they are - I have a right to say 'I'm sad' without being undermined for it. Your posts come across as patronizing - it's like you're saying that you have it exactly right on the emotion front and everyone else is a fool. You are wrong however. I for one don't cry at pictures of puppies or sappy movies. Heck, years on the streets as an addict beat a lot of emotion out of me. But I quite like people that do. They remind me that life contains a purity that I have lost and I am happy for every person that gets to be sad over the smaller things in life. Do you know I once carried the limp and lifeless body of an overdosed punter to a rubbish skip and discarded him there for fear that the police would come and ruin my day. I looked death in the face (this man was actually a friend of mine) and felt no sadness at all. I am glad to have found my sadness as it was part of my healing, part of me rejoining the world and saying. 'Claire's back' So don't get upset over my pain for Heath Ledger - in the big picture of shit things that have happened to me (and believe me brother you can only start to imagine the surface of that one) Heath Ledger's death is a trivial sadness. But it is one that I ain't going to let some guy from an internet chat room diminish. I am Claire. I have feelings nowadays. I am sad for Heath Ledger, his child and his family. I am especially sad for the guy that I threw in a dumpster, but hey, he would have done the same for me.

Claire, you rock. That is all.

Endurance, I mean this as kindly as possible, but every post of yours in this thread just seems to miss the mark even more. I would suggest that you might consider quitting while you are ahead. Over simplifying and trivializing this to say that women like to be emotional and men like to be unemotional is just... Well, I'm going to be nice about and say that it's not from my perspective a good thing to say. Worse, saying that women "think later, sometimes very much later" is one of those internet statements that I simply cannot wrap my brain around. What possesses a man to say something like that to a bunch of women?

Agree to disagree. Hatchet burying time, methinks.

Anyone do a line for Heath?

No - but I did several for EnduranceMan It makes him somehow - more bearable