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The Dude code is awesome. My husband is mostly supportive. I recently had my first race, and the 2-3 weeks before the race, he was the ultimate coach. He was a runner through college (he went to Russia with his track team to be part of some USA-Russia event), won all sorts of awards, etc., but now his favorite thing to do is watch TV and eat ice cream. I don't run that far so I'm not out of the house very long, but while in theory he is supportive, when I get my running clothes on, I get major attitude. He views it as taking time away from the family (and I'm only gone 30-45 minutes, max). I could wait until our son is in bed, but then I'd be running around 8:30 at night, and I'm not interested in that. I run when I get home from work. I help the boys get dinner started, then go running while it's cooking. Or the boys will just eat without me, and I'll eat when I get home. He grumbles, but wisely keeps his trap shut. The odd thing is, when I get home, he's totally fine. I asked him once about it, and he said first that he was annoyed about the time away from them in the evenings, as we both work full time. But finally he admitted that he's jealous that I had the drive to start running and I've kept at it. So I suggested that he go too. He says not enough time, because I'm 'ALWAYS' running (check my log and you'll see how far from the truth that is!). I tell him that's lame, and we can work out a schedule - alternate days or something. He now says he has no interest in running anymore, he wants to find some other way to exercise. Fine, I told him, but back off the attitude about me running. I think you just have to stand up for yourself. It's hard and sometimes gets you nowhere, and create more tension, but in the end I really think it's the best option. It was for me, anyway. I just roll my eyes at the attitude, plug in the iPod, enjoy myself, and know that when I get home, he'll get over himself.
Michelle
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DH is very supportive. Knows I'd be a crazy woman otherwise.
Suffering Benefiting from mature onset exercise addiction and low aerobic endorphin release threshold. Hoping there is no cure.
Maggie & Molly
"It does not matter how slow you go so long as you do not stop."Wisdom of Confucius
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I'm soooo loving my DH right now. Not only is he very supportive of my attempts to run he is supportive of all my physical activities. I have a personal trainer and had been thinking to myself that financially I should stop. The other night DH says "you're about done with your trainer, right". I reply yep, Thursday. He gets up, comes over, gives me some money and says that he has been saving some money up because he know's that I'll go through withdrawal. Boy I love that man
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Vim
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Not a day goes by when my dh doesn't grab my ass and tell me how sexy my runner body is. He didn't do that very often before I started running. He really does think it's HOT.